I know this happens all day, every day, but sometimes it just hits you harder. Someone “like me” passed away today. She was a mother of two, a hard-worker (much more so than me), a beautiful person inside and out, a joy to be around, a believer in Christ, and so much more than I could ever list here. I barely knew her. I knew her through my best friend, but for some reason this hits me so hard. I am not sure if it is because she is a mother, like me, and her kids are around the same ages as mine. Is it because she was the same age as me, or because she was a best friend to my best friend, so I am feeling for her as well? I don’t know. This loss leaves me thinking so many thoughts: “If I were to die today, would my children know how much I absolutely love them? Would my husband? Would my oldest son have to leave the family he has grown up with and go live with his biological father? Would he be okay? Will he remember how special and important he is to the world? Will he know how proud I am of him? My youngest son wouldn’t even have any memories with me. Have I left a mark on this world at all? Is it a positive one? Does everyone in my family know how much they mean to me? Does my husband know how much I appreciate every single thing he does and all of the sacrifices he makes for our family? Will he know that he can handle everything that he thinks he can’t? Does he know how much I believe in him?”
I’m sure everyone thinks about these things every now and then. I know I have before, but I know now that I need to make sure and answer all of the questions above positively while I still can. Everyone thinks that these things won’t happen to them. People think that they are going to live forever. Please treat your children with kindness. Please treat your spouse with kindness. Show them the love that only you can. Show them that they are important. Let your family and friends know how much you love and appreciate them while you still can. Go out and make memories. Don’t worry so much. (I need to work on that one for sure, obviously.) Go on the trip that you’ve been dying to go on. Stop putting off things that you know are important to your family or your children. When your child asks you to do something for them or with them- get up and do it! Don’t tell them that you’ll help them later or that something else needs to be done right then. Show them that they are more important to you than anything. They need your reassurance just like, admit it or not, you need your spouse’s, your friend’s, and your family’s reassurance. Don’t take today, right now, for granted. You will never get it back and it may be the day that makes someone remember how great you are and how special they are.